Lately, I’ve seen multiple IG posts, Facebook posts, and random blog posts about body shaming. However, once I started reading these articles, I discovered that they weren’t what I thought they were. I’ve always been used to smaller girls/guys making fun of me because I was bigger. So when I thought of body shaming, I always assumed it was someone small making fun of someone larger. I’ve recently discovered that I was so wrong.
Excuse me for my ignorance, but I had no idea that smaller girls struggled with body shaming. I honestly, always thought of it as complaining. In my mind, I was trying to get to where they were so what did they have to complain about? Right? No.
That thought process was a result of my self-confidence (or the lack there of). I was attempting to get to where they were, which means I wasn’t accepting myself for who I was. It also means that I was threatened by someone smaller. I will never be a size 4. I may get down to a size 14 but that is probably as small as I will get and I’m okay with that. I’m honestly okay with my size now, I just like the idea of having a goal and reaching it.
I’m not here to spread the blame from one party to the next, because honestly as women it’s embarrassing that we are calling each other out on size and not uplifting each other to be mentally and physically healthy. There are already too many people against us, so there is absolutely no reason why we’re against each other.
No matter what size we are, we all have insecurities. We have body parts that we would like to improve. And we all have enough people who are attempting to tell us we’re not good enough. Accept the fact that you are who you are. Instead of making your goal to look like someone else, just try to be healthy. Don’t tease a larger young lady because you feel like she eats too much and don’t ask a smaller young lady if she ever eats. How about you try keeping your comments to yourself? If you feel like you have something to say…just don’t. Because there is a 100% chance that no one wants to hear your negativity.
Stay focused. Be blessed.