I’ve been asked more than once what I’m looking for relationship wise and being a 23 year old woman, entering the next phase of her life, this is a conversation that I’m all to familiar with.
Honestly, I want a family. I want a wonderful, intelligent, caring, funny, and handsome man of God. I want to travel the world with him and I want him to be my best friend. I want kids and a dog, the whole thing. I cannot wait to have a big white house with a wrap around porch and a swing right where I can sip sweet tea and write. I’m so excited for that part of my life.
That’s not all I want in life. I want to visit every continent. I want to continue to excel in my career. One day, I will be a very successful writer. And this may be materialistic, but I want to be able to go on a shopping spree and buy LITERALLY WHATEVER I WANT.
With that being said, it’s okay to want to get married and to want to start families, but don’t forget to want more out of your life as well. I have convinced myself that I can have it all.
However, just because I want these things DOES NOT mean I’m going to settle. I’m willing to be patient. I know that God has designed a man just for me. But I’m not going to meet him any sooner than God wants me to. So what’s the rush? Why not enjoy the time that God has given you. Date around. Learn what you like and what you don’t like. (By date…I mean DATE, not all that other stuff). Take the time to accomplish those goals that God has given you the ability to accomplish in the present time. Travel. Start your own business. Work those long hours to get that promotion at work. Save unusually large amounts of money. Enjoy your life.
On the flip side, if you’re out here asking God to send you your significant other, don’t be afraid when they come knocking on your door. It is not what you prayed for? It’s kind of crazy to ask God for something that you don’t want or you’re not ready for.
It’s okay to want to be in love, its okay to want to share your life with someone. Just be patient. Do not settle just because you think you’re lonely. These past few months, I’ve gotten comfortable with just being by myself. I’m okay in my own company and I genuinely enjoy my own company. Once you get to that point, things start becoming easier. You’re less stressed and you put up with less crap.
After all, no one will love you like you can love yourself.
Enjoy your time to yourself.
Stay focused. Be Blessed.