I never understood the importance of this word, until I lost it. Around July 2017, I lost my balance and in October of 2017, I totally gave up on trying to get it back. How did I get thrown off balance? There were a lot of moving parts. I moved, I started school, I got a new position at work that required more of me and before I knew it, I was all out of wack. My eating was off. I was no longer eating the fruits and veggies that I would normally load up on. I was on a popcorn and wine diet. Working out was a hit or miss (more of a miss). I was either at work, doing school work, or sleeping. Nothing else.
However, when the new year started I wanted to at least try to get back in the groove of things. I wanted to try to find a way to truly balance all the moving parts of my life. As I write this, in no way have I achieved my ideal level of balance. But I’m so much better than I was last month. I’ve come up with a couple of steps that I’ve taken in order to help me get back to my balanced lifestyle.
- Be intentional
I love to plan things. From planning my day to planning parties, I enjoy it all. Make a plan. Be intentional about your goals. Write them down. Personally, I have hectic weekdays. I know that I won’t be at home and when I am, I want to be asleep. One of my goals is to continue on my healthy eating journey. So I know that I need to plan out my meals and make it as easy as possible for myself. If that means semi meal prepping (because I don’t like old food), then so be it. I’ll meal prep my breakfast, snacks, and dinners so I can just grab it and be on my way. I know that a lot of the time, I’m going from one place to the other so I have to squeeze my workouts in. I pack my workout clothes and toss them in my car, so when I have time to go, I can. Know your goals and be intentional with your plans to accomplish them.
- Be mindful of who your energy increases or decreases around
I am in a season where I am low on energy. I’m not sure if its the colder weather or the shorter days but I find myself exhausted early on. Which means, I have to be mindful of the company I keep. There are people in your life that can take everything you’ve got. Sometimes, they don’t even know it and it may not be intentional. But it still happens. I have paid close attention to the relationships that have a constant flow of positive energy. I invest more time in the relationships that make me feel better and make me a better person. I think of it like this, I need positive fuel/gas in order to keep going to reach my goals. If I’m around people that are always draining my tank, I won’t have enough to do what I need to do.
- Make yourself a priority
You are important. You would think this was understood, but sometimes life can shift and you can forget about yourself. If you have kids, a significant other, or a high demanding job it can be easy to let yourself slip. But if you’re lacking then you cannot properly support the other people in your life. Know your limits and know when you need time to yourself. Be intentional about taking care of yourself. Feed yourselves the right foods, take your vitamins, sleep, or do whatever it is to make yourself feel your best as often as you can.
- Be organized
Getting myself and the space around me organized has set the tone in helping me find my balance. Organization and planning go hand in hand. I organize/plan my days out which gives me allotted time to do everything that I need to do. Staying organized keeps me on track to accomplishing my goals.
- Find Fun
This has been the hardest thing for me and I’m still working on it. However, I realize the importance of finding things that you enjoy. I realized that when I lost my balance, I wasn’t doing anything that I considered fun. I wasn’t hanging out with friends, or having my Wine and Write nights, reading consistently, or cooking. I was strictly working, going to class and sleeping. Doing things that you enjoy gives you the power to refill your own energy tank. Remember, you need that energy in order to accomplish everything that you have to do. Don’t cheat yourself.
I’m sure there are hundreds of other things you can do to try to find the balance in your life again. I know what balance feels like, so its easier for me to determine what I need to do in order to get there again. It may be a little harder if you’ve never experienced it. These are just a few things that I have personally found to be helpful in pointing me in the right direction. If you do something else, let me know so I can try it. All suggestions are more than welcome!